How to find her G-spot
While it’s not clear if every woman gets off on G-spot stimulation, there’s little debate about where the controversial pleasure point can be found in the women who do. “It’s about 2 inches inside of the vagina, on the top side of the vaginal wall,” Morse says.
If your partner is on her back and you insert a finger with your palm facing the ceiling, the “top side” of her vagina is the spot you’ll touch by curling your finger in a come-hither motion, almost like you’re trying to stroke her belly button from the inside. If you're having trouble, have her draw her knees back toward her chest to give your fingers better access, Morse says.
How to stimulate her G-spot
Now that you know where it is, how do you stimulate it? Just as you wouldn’t forcefully jam your whole penis into her in a single movement, you should work your finger in slowly and softly. “Do not thrust vigorously,” Morse warns. “Your partner is not a change purse and you are not searching for quarters.”
Once she seems comfortable with your finger inside of her, use that same curling motion to softly massage the top of her vagina with the pad of your finger. If you feel a ribbed or textured area, you’re on the right track to the G-spot, Morse says. “You’ll know you found it because it will feel like a bean-shaped bump and may be more textured than the surrounding tissue,” she adds.
Stroke the G-spot in a rhythmic motion, trying different speeds and amounts of pressure until you’ve found the one she most enjoys. “If she isn’t giving you feedback, don’t pick up the pace or increase the pressure,” Morse stresses. “Ask her how it feels, and adjust your moves accordingly.”
There’s a chance she might not enjoy how it feels, especially if she’s had problems finding her own G-spot in the past, says Morse. If this is the case, abort the mission and try again another time. It may take several attempts, or the G-spot may just not be her thing, says Morse.
How to take it to the next level
If you’ve successfully worked your way to the G-spot and your partner is into it, Morse recommends using your free hand to gently press on her belly, just above the top line of her pubic hair. Soft pressure on the outside can help stimulate her G-spot even more.
Once you’ve revved her up with your fingers, rear-entry positions like doggy style are especially good at stimulating her G-spot, Morse adds. “Make sure she’s on all fours with her back arched slightly, as opposed to lying with her head on the bed. Try lifting her hips and thrusting in a downward motion so your penis can more easily rub the front wall of her vagina.”